the-true-space-fandom:

artemuscain-gamingandbs:

mamatronchatoro:

puppygays:

oh god, they were roommates

This straight guy, who we’ll call Mike, has been roommates with Alex for a year. When Alex told Mike he was gay, he was absolutely fine with it. But then when Alex started to bring guys home…he started getting annoyed, resentful, disgusted.

Posting on Reddit, he said: ‘First things first, let me say that I’ve never thought of myself as being discriminatory before. I had a gay friend in high school and we made it through some tough times together, I never felt weird about him dating a guy. So all of this is coming out of nowhere.

‘”Alex” has been my roommate for one year, and I pretty much knew upfront about him being gay. At some point we became friendly enough with each other that we could even joke about it, as in, sometimes he’ll pretend to flirt with me and I’ll pretend to flirt back. I’m straight and he knows that, but I don’t feel threatened by him flirting with me and he says most straight guys do.

‘The problems started because of this: Alex brings guys home sometimes. At the start I thought I was okay with it, since it’s really not my business who he sleeps with. He’s usually discreet enough about it that I don’t see/hear anything I wouldn’t want to see/hear from anyone else, but for some reason I’ve started feeling weird if I even see him with other guys.

‘I don’t know when it started but one time that really sticks out to me is when I came home and saw him and some guy making out on the couch. I don’t know how to describe what it was like to see that, except that for a moment I felt so bad I thought I was going to throw up. Alex was embarrassed (he didn’t think I’d be back for a while), but I told him it was okay since I was embarrassed too.

‘I felt bad for being as disgusted as I was, since there’s NO good reason for me to have a reaction like that. I thought maybe they just caught me by surprise and that’s why I reacted so strongly, but it turned out it wasn’t a one-time thing. After that, every time he has a guy over (not that often, but every once in a while) I just start feeling like shit and wishing that guy would leave, and I can’t stop thinking about what these guys might have done to him even though I don’t want to imagine that. It makes me really uncomfortable and grossed out. And these are just guys he fools around with, I don’t know what I’d do if he ends up getting an actual boyfriend.

‘Alex has started to notice and it’s affecting our friendship. The other day I came home right when some guy was about to leave, and the guy tried to be polite to me but I ended up being rude to him (don’t remember what I said, but it was really obvious I was pissed). When the guy left, Alex asked me why I was being an asshole. I didn’t know what to say, but then he asked if I had a problem with him sleeping with other guys. I said no. For some reason that pissed him off more and he said I can’t complain since I used to bring my fuckbuddy over and he was forced to see me being affectionate with her sometimes. (I was in an FWB situation with a girl in the early days of me and Alex living together, but I broke it off after a few months and I haven’t done anything with anyone since.) I agreed with him and told him I was just having a bad day and I don’t care who he sleeps with, but he looked more upset and told me he’s going to a friend’s place to cool off. I said okay. When he was leaving for some reason he casually said, “and you’ll be okay if I sleep with him as long as I do at his place and not ours, right?” Or something like that. I told him it’s none of my business what he does at someone else’s place, but when he said that I felt sick to my stomach and couldn’t stop thinking about it.

‘He didn’t show up later that night even though he was supposed to hang out with me and my sister. He’s never blown me off before and it made me feel like shit, but part of it was my fault since I made him feel like I was judging him for sleeping with guys. Now he’s acting like nothing happened but I’m worried I might mess things up if it happens again. I want to keep him as a friend, but he’d be hurt if he knew that whenever I think about him with other guys it disgusts me.

‘How do I deal with this? I’ve never been homophobic but I’ve suddenly developed some kind of homophobia where just the idea of my roommate’s sex life makes me uncomfortable. And I don’t react like this to other gay people either, it’s just Alex. I don’t know if this means I’m only okay with gay people as long as I’m not living with them or what. Does anyone else have experience with this? I want to get over myself and stop whatever this is, but if I can’t I’m going to have to leave since the last thing I want to do is hurt Alex, and if I stay here and keep automatically judging him for his lifestyle that’s what’s going to happen.

‘tl;dr: Roommate is gay, I am not but I thought I was okay with him being gay until I realised I feel crappy when I see him with other guys and it’s started to affect our friendship. How to deal with this/stop being such a dick?’

One Redditor asked: ‘Are you sure that weird feeling isn’t jealousy…? i mean, this only seems to revolve around Alex specifically.’

And Mike responded: ‘I thought about that, but I don’t know what I’m meant to be jealous of. He definitely has a more active sex life than I do, but reacting like this to something like that seems really strange and irrational.’

The Redditor responded: ‘Yeah i thought maybe you don’t like seeing Alex with other people because you want his attention to yourself?’

‘The day I made the post, I met up with my sister Laura [24F] and I showed her the post. She read the whole thing and called me an oblivious walnut and said it sounds like I have a crush on Alex. The same conclusion some of you came to in the original post.

‘Anyway, she talked me through it and we confirmed I’m not as straight as I thought I was. She also pointed out something in my original post, where I said the more I tried to reassure him I didn’t mind who he slept with, the more he got upset. Also: how he brought my old FWB situation into it. I just thought he was understandably mad with me for being an asshole, but Laura thought it sounded like maybe Alex wanted me to be jealous? We moved on from that topic pretty quickly, though, since I couldn’t really handle the implications of that when I’d JUST started to understand that I like this guy.

‘The next few days were mostly me sitting on my ass trying to wrap my head around everything. I was scared of messing up our friendship and losing him, but I was even more scared that I might just let this pass without saying anything and then he gets a boyfriend and I have to see him with another guy…etc. Because if that happened I would probably have to end it anyway, since as we’ve established, I’m not great at dealing with him being with other guys.

‘Probably could have planned it better, but I told him. Right after a Tarantino marathon, if anyone’s interested, since nothing says romance like graphic violence. I told him I’ve been such a dick because I was jealous. I don’t think he got what I was getting at because he just laughed a little and said I didn’t have to be jealous since it wasn’t like I’d have any trouble finding people to sleep with me. No clue how I explained, it’s a blur. Luckily he saw how nervous I was so he knew I was serious.

‘We talked. Long story short: all that flirting was real, but Alex didn’t have any hope of it going further because of me being an oblivious “straight” guy. So he’s been trying to get over me. He laughed really hard when I told him about how I mistook my jealousy for homophobia, and he teased me by saying he’d never expected me to be the jealous type. Then again, we both ended up laughing a lot of out of nervousness and awkwardness. I’ve never seen him like that before since he’s usually pretty confident. In the end we agreed to maybe try something out, and we kissed. Never kissed anyone with a beard before, so…interesting experience, but also really good. (Plot twist: it turns out I don’t have any problem with Alex kissing guys if it’s me he’s kissing.)

‘Since then we’ve kind of been easing into the whole dating thing, I guess? I know this place is wary about roommate relationships and I get why, but it’s been great so far. We had our first proper date last weekend and it was incredible, though a bit weird since we’ve done that a thousand times already and this time there was a new context. At home we still do our normal thing, but sometimes we get distracted. Last night I almost burned dinner because I had to kiss him and we got kind of carried away, haha. We’re taking the whole sex thing slow though since I’ve never done anything with another guy before.

‘I’m a little worried about coming out to my family and my other friends, especially since this is almost as new for me as it would be for them. My parents are very openminded and my mom especially loves Alex. But I have some more conservative family members on my dad’s side, and I can already imagine them blaming Alex for turning me gay. They can also be pretty racist (Laura’s boyfriend is Latino so she knows all about that) and Alex is mixed. It’s something to think about in the longterm, I guess. Alex has said he doesn’t expect me to jump out of the closet right away, but if we end up calling ourselves a couple then I’m not going to keep him a secret or anything.

‘So…we’re trying. And I am not a homophobe, and nobody needed therapy. Honestly, I can’t remember the last time I was this happy, and I never would have expected this when I made that first post. It’s a good thing some of you picked up on the actual problem and tried to get it through to me despite me being an oblivious walnut, so…thanks, guys.’

Funniest self-realization in the world? ‘Plot twist: it turns out I don’t have any problem with Alex kissing guys if it’s me he’s kissing.’

This was…. cute???

DEAR GOD IT GOT BETTER

Bagginshield Kiss my dude??? Bruhhh 7

7) routine kisses where the other person presents their cheek/forehead for the hello/goodbye kiss without even looking up from what they’re doing

It was a bloody stupid thing to do, and Bilbo’s only excuse for it was that everything surrounding the rebuilding of Erebor was happening at a break-neck pace, and that included personal lives. It also included even less sleep, somehow, than he recalled getting on the quest. 

So with the Company all gathered around a salvaged banquet table, maps and accounts laid out in a flurry before them while more dwarves trickled in every day, and day and night had no meaning because there was so much work to be done and they were underground, he had hardly thought of it.

Clearly Thorin had hardly thought of it either, when Bilbo stood and stretched with a yawn, his spine popping as he stretched after a day spent sitting.

“Well I think that’s me for the night. If spend one more minute looking at those scribbles I quite believe my eyes will fall out,” Bilbo said. He made no pretense of dwarven constitution. There was a lethargic murmur from the surrounding dwarves, a half-hearted wave from Ori as he glanced up from his work.

“Goodnight,” Bilbo said to Thorin, and leaned over to give him a companionable pat on the shoulder. It was all they’d agreed upon for when they were in public, at least until such a time as they chose, a time when it made sense to try to explain to the others what they barely understood themselves.

Bilbo did not know exactly when staying up beside Thorin’s sickbed to free the healers to see to the other wounded had turned to sharing that bed. Or when it had turned to falling asleep at Thorin’s side to the steady beat of Thorin’s heart, as soothing a sound as he had ever heard with how close it had been. 

He could not pinpoint it, but once both were given their separate quarters set up within Erebor, they had exchanged one silent, knowing look and that had been that. Bilbo wasn’t sure he’d spent a single night in his generous quarters, only used it to store his clothes (though even those were making a steady migration to Thorin’s wardrobe, only for convenience’s sake of course) and then it was on with his little ring and sneaking back to the only place that felt like home since he’d left Bag End.

It had been at least a month now though of waking up beside Thorin in the few hours of sleep they were afforded, but those private moments of warmth between waking and sleeping were a better courtship than any Bilbo had thought to have, with anyone for that matter, much less with Thorin when they might so easily have had nothing at all.

He would admit in retrospect that small part of him had hoped the little pat on the shoulder would be sign enough to Thorin of his intentions, once a suitably unsuspicious amount of time had passed and Bilbo had absolutely been seen entering his own room for any eyes that might be there to pry. For those eyes would certainly not note the tiny opening of that door as an invisible, hobbit-size form slipped out.

That said, they really did need to stop the sneaking around though, as much of a game as it had become, as lovely as the privacy and lack of prying had been, but that was hardly on Bilbo’s mind at the moment. There was nothing on his mind except how badly he looked forward to that bed, and the warmth of Thorin beside him to share it.

So when Thorin inclined his head in return with a murmured, “Goodnight,” Bilbo had not thought about it, or about anything at all when the pat on the shoulder turned to a familiar goodnight kiss to Thorin’s forehead.

The murmuring of the other dwarves stopped. Bilbo stopped. The warm creep of exhaustion over his eyes and brain stopped, replaced with a sudden horrible alertness.

But maybe it was his imagination. Maybe they’d gone undetected, with the others too focused on their work. Bilbo craned his neck, peaking out of one eye in a hope against hope…

Nope. Every eye in the room was trained on them. Kili was openly gaping, and Dwalin’s expression was worryingly unreadable.

“Uh,” Bilbo tried, intelligently. “I… suppose someone just won a bet?”

embarrassingwriter:

Something interesting I found as an older comment on an older Nerdwriter video; might be good to keep in mind for world building! Would honestly be cool to see more writers do.

THIS, THANK YOU

And if I may add, one thing that drives me BONKERS in fantasy world building is stuff like “Blah blah, this bad guy was locked away 10,000 years ago, awaiting the day when the prophecy says a champion would arise to fight him!!!!!”

BITCH, do you want to know what records we have on Earth from 10,000 years ago??

CAVE PAINTINGS

LIKE THIS

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We have no written memory of this time! Our earliest literary work is around 6,000 years old with Gilgamesh. We don’t even listen to scientists from 50 years ago telling us certain technology might be bad for us, but you think humanity would jump at a prophecy from before we had given up hunter-gathering?!

Please–for the love of whatever–fiction writers, think about realistic time spans! 70 years is a lifetime and is not actively talked about in day-to-day life all that often except in niche topics! Most orally transmitted knowledge passes out of memory in 120 years unless aided with writing as well as members of a society that are tasked with keeping certain information alive, and even then it’s often ignored. Who are your historians? Sure, maybe they’re immortals or have a longer lifespan (and then you should adjust your timelines accordingly). But why is anyone listening to them? If an academic came forward today and said an ancient Roman prophecy told them to beware the return of some Big Bad Guy, they would be thrown out of their university and featured on Ancient Aliens! And also, Rome’s fall is only 1,000-1,600 years ago (depending on how you count it). But within a couple hundred years of its fall, people in Britain thought giants had made their buildings. Until modern times, people in Britain thought one of the escaped princes from Troy was a founder of England! (Named Brutus, btw).

The OP’s point is very well taken. Most people today do not have exhaustive knowledge of their country’s history (or even their family’s history). There’s a lot of myth mixed in with fact and LOTS of conflicting accounts colored by ignorance or individual agendas. It’s also possible for them to just be flat-out wrong

And for my sake please, please take into consideration actual human history. Our written culture is maximum 7,000 years old, people don’t know shit from 10,000 years ago, and even 1,000 years ago is the damn Norman Invasion of England and that’s pretty spotty too! I’m looking at you, Voltron!

Your Guide To Reviews

saltycaramel1394:

longlivefeedback:

tsunderesasuke:

The Problem

Fic writers wonder why people don’t review. They honestly can’t understand the silence. Writers assume that readers:

  • usually have something to add/criticize/say
  • know how to articulate their own thoughts/feelings
  • withhold feedback because they’re lazy or apathetic
  • don’t appreciate how much time/effort/energy goes into writing

On the flip-side, readers assume that:

  • the writer already knows how ‘good’ their work is
  • someone else will review because this fic is ‘obviously’ awesome
  • if a fic is already ‘popular,’ their feedback won’t matter
  • if they comment, they ‘must’ leave an awesome, insightful, detailed comment that 100% reflects their love for a fic
  • since words aren’t adequate, it’s better to stfu and just click the kudos button/favotite/bookmark

None of these assumptions are accurate.

The reality is that:

  • there is no reason for a writer to post their work except to get feedback that validates their vision, helps them improve and/or gives them an outsider perspective/interpretation of their work (which can be absolutely mind-blowing)
  • like, you can and should write for yourself, but if that’s 100% the case, every good fic would be wasting away in a private word document
  • ‘readers’ are not always ‘writers’
  • ‘writers’ can naturally put their ideas and emotions into words
  • ‘readers’ usually don’t know what to say, which words to use to express themselves, and belittle the importance of their perspective
  • many ‘readers’ don’t write, so they can’t empathize with the struggle of writing a fic for a silent but attentive audience

Basically, readers don’t understand writers and vice-versa. Both parties are wired differently. Readers who also write are more likely to review because they empathize with both sides of the equation.

The Solution

Writers

  • Be patient, understanding, and persistent
  • Appreciate those who do review
  • Don’t get bitter, discontinue a beloved story, or assume the worst of your readers
  • Realize that everyone is really trying their best

Readers

  • Be patient, supportive, honest, and empathetic
  • Realize that there’s no minimum! Even two words (like ‘good work!’) can have a huge impact

Review Templates

Things to say when you’re tongue-tied:

Verbs

  • I liked the part where/when…
  • I wonder why…
  • I smiled/laughed when…
  • I was confused when…
  • I think that…
  • I predict…
  • I was sad/happy/angry/[other emotion] when…

Nouns

  • [character] did/said/felt/will do [this thing]
  • because… (if applicable)
  • [insert plot point/event]

Example: I think that [this guy] ran away from [his friend] because he was trying to protect him.

And that’s it. You don’t have to say anything else. One sentence is more than enough, but you’ll notice that once you get started, you’ll have a lot to say- so say it!

Author’s style

Your writing is:

  • Detailed/descriptive
  • Vivid
  • Concise (to the point)
  • Funny
  • Serious
  • Surreal
  • Unique
  • Compelling
  • Provocative
  • Leaves me wondering about a lot of things, and I’m curious about what happens next
  • Confused me a little at times (talk about what confused you! The author will be more than happy to clear things up!)

Do’s and Don’ts

Don’t

  • Worry about grammar/typos in your review
  • Suggest a direction for the story (most writers know what they’re doing and you just gotta trust them)
  • Think that clicking the kudos button is all you can do! Your opinion is important!
  • Tell the author to do more of [this] and less of [that]
  • Ask them to update without leaving any other feedback

Do

  • Leave short comments if you can’t think of anything else to say (“I like this” is more than acceptable, seriously)
  • Inform the author of typos (be specific)- many fics are un-beta’d. The writer will appreciate your attention to detail.
  • Express your own perspective even if it isn’t ‘correct-’ I think [character] did this because she was jealous, which explains why…
  • Understand that your unique interpretation of motives/symbolism/foreshadowing/anything is extremely valuable
  • Be honest, but diplomatic 
  • Bookmark/rec works if you enjoy them, esp to help lesser-known writers 

You can copy/paste from this post into your reviews. It’s hard to find the right words sometimes, but for writers, anything is better than silence.

This is great! I have a few things to add. 

Writers

  • Be patient with your readers, yes. Commenting is a skill, and even when it seems like something easy, it isn’t – not for everyone, at every time. However. It is okay to be disappointed that a story didn’t get much of a response. This is normal, and it doesn’t make you entitled or ungrateful. It makes you a person. 
  • If a fic isn’t getting much feedback, and you decide to discontinue it for that reason – that’s okay too. No matter how much you want to tell a story, the motivation to put in so, so much effort and make it happen comes from a lot of sources, and comments can be a vital component. 
  • Post on multiple sites (ao3, FFN, wattpad, tumblr, etc). You want that audience? Go get ‘em!! 

Readers

  • Don’t get mad at an author for requesting feedback, or discontinuing a story due to lack of it. It’s easy to feel guilty, and it’s often more pleasant to turn guilt into anger and push it outwards, but it’s unfair. The author’s statement isn’t targeting you and only you, and the vast majority of the time, they’re not angry either – they’re scared that they’re pouring their energy into something that no one else cares about. 
  • You don’t have to go from never commenting, or commenting very rarely, to commenting on every single thing you read. You don’t have to comment at all. But, if you want to comment more, don’t, start out with the goal of going from 0 to 100. Instead, tell yourself “I’m going to comment on at least one fic today,” or “The next time I bookmark a fic, I’m going to tag it with a description of how it made me feel.” 
  • Using a template isn’t cheating!! “It’s not completely original,” well, who cares. Most of what we say has been said countless times before, but that doesn’t make it meaningless – it’s been said so many times because it’s been meant. 
  • If you’re worried about commenting because you’re not a native speaker, it’s okay! However, when authors get a comment from someone who says that they’re reading this in a second language, that you’re still learning, we go “oh my god Dedication I love you so much.” 
  • To those readers who are also writers – commenting is different than writing. They might as well be different languages (and depending on what languages you read/write in, they might actually be different languages). The fact that you write stories might not make commenting any easier, and that, again, is normal. I’ve said several times that “I can only say what I mean when I can put the words into a character’s mouth.” 
  • If you don’t want to leave a short comment but you don’t know what to say? Talk to a friend about the story while you’re reading, if you have fandom friends. Make them read it too. When you’re done, copy the best parts of the chat log (including keyboard smashes) into the comment box and post it. Authors love that. 

– Mod Rose

Saving these because leaving comments is hard, I struggle with it at times and these templates seem useful

Musings for my novel, but it’s interesting when you design a character to be an answer to a common trope, and then must dodge turning them into that exact trope.

(I’d like to think GRRM ran into this problem at some point, designing his series to be a reversal of fantasy tropes, only to realize that well, at some point we’re going to need a hero, and at some point someone needs to win this fight or it all spins off into chaos and it ends with rocks fall everyone dies. But then, maybe that’s how he always planned to end it.)

So the novel I’m working on is female character-centric. There’s an HP-esque “Golden Trio” at the center where the balance is two women and one man. But I want to talk about my male character for a bit because I’ve been developing him a bunch lately, and I’d like to think I’m on to something interesting?

So the trope I suppose I’d like to avoid is the “Male Character is the Most Special” but, at the end of the day, it’s not that stories go out of their way to make people into heroes, it’s that people being heroes is what makes stories. If he wasn’t in some way extraordinary and able to go toe-to-toe with my heroic female protagonists, he would be unworthy of their story and most likely an annoying character to boot.

Terrence (all names subject to change at some point, the idea was for his name to sound a bit pompous and traditional) is something of my answer to Prince Caspian and the Fisher King. He’s the prince, now king of the fantasy island nation of Antylia. The ruler of Antylia, male or female, is always the firstborn in a line going back to the founding of the nation some 300-400 years earlier. That’s because the health of the ruler is literally tied to the land by magic, which passes on to their firstborn child after the ruler die. Which, in my opinion, is a system just asking to be hacked, and Antylia is very lucky that it hasn’t been yet (until now).

As children, he and the female protagonists Thea and Alma went on a quest to depose his “evil” uncle, who had murdered Terrence’s father, the rightful king as well as the queen Terrence’s mother, in hopes that the magic of the land and its kingship would pass to him as secondborn and a better ruler but, failing that, it would pass to then 10-year-old Terrence who could be essentially imprisoned in a golden cage to maintain the health of the nation. Terrence at 14 did what any normal child in a fairytale story would do upon learning his uncle was responsible for his parents’ deaths: he ran away from home and with a few unlikely allies took back his throne.

His uncle was executed. Thea, a girl from our world, went home. Alma, their commoner sidekick, went back to her own life.

This whole novel is constructed around the idea of youthful simplicity giving way to adult complexity. Hopefully, everything that took place during their childhood quest can be easily grasped by readers without having to show very much of it. It’s a tale as old as time.

Except now we’re 15 years later, and a civil war has been raging for most of that time, decimating the population. The commoner Alma is now on the side of the rebels, who have taken up arms against a king who has gone mad with power, decimating his own allies out of paranoia, and turning the island’s most powerful gift into the weapon of its destruction: the king is using his own body to target and destroy his political enemies with earthquakes, natural disaster and famine. His body is a weapon that allows the much smaller loyalist forces to have driven the rebel forces to desperation.

Hopefully, it is another classic, easy to understand story, of the boy king spoiled until he becomes a despotic adult. Yet none dare kill him, because there’s no known firstborn heir for the health of the island nation to pass to. For all anyone knows, his death without heir could cause the total destruction of the island.

Alma is forced to confront that as a naive child she had placed this despot on the throne of her homeland. When Thea, our protagonist, returns from our world to Antylia, she too is confronted with her childhood naïveté as well as Alma’s fury with her and at herself that they didn’t do more then or since to prevent this widespread destruction and see what Terrence really was sooner. (Adding to that, before Thea left she was honored with being knighted as the king’s protector, a role traditionally meant to keep the monarch in check, and abandoned it in order to return to our world.)

Of course, it wouldn’t be much of a story if it ended at that, and a careful reader at this point may have noticed the flaw in the assumptions of Terrence’s wickedness. Even if he does wear a gold mask these days and call himself a god, there is the simple fact that it is the health of the king that makes the land thrive, and his pain that makes it suffer.

Because Terrence hasn’t turned despot. He is a prisoner of his own reign, and has been more or less since Thea and Alma helped put him on the throne. Deposing his uncle as regent did nothing to remove the web of co-conspirators who were quick to disavow the regent when the tide of opinion turned in favor of the boy-king, who after all is an easier and more vulnerable target of manipulation anyway. In essence, Terrence has been tortured ever since in order to destroy their political enemies, kept imprisoned as the war worsened.

So the original idea was that Terrence is in fact the damsel in distress of the novel, to be saved by our female protagonists. Granted, Alma is fairly skeptical of Thea’s belief (that turns out to be true) that the Terrence she knew would never become such a tyrant and that something is definitely wrong. (Alma’s not entirely in the wrong here for thinking otherwise though, she’s seen the wreckage of destroyed cities and giving your friend the “benefit of the doubt” in those situations is a bit challenging to say the least).

But I can’t just have Terrence sitting around totally passive in his own captivity for 15 years. It would make him unworthy of the throne he fought for (and technically still occupies).

Terrence is essentially stuck in a situation where injury made to him could kill his own people, perhaps even thousands at a time. He can’t use injury or suicide as a way out. He also doesn’t dare antagonize his captors if it risks sadism or punishment being added to the tactical use of his torture for the war (and he tried once, when he was 18, to escape by hurting himself and targeting an earthquake to his own location, only to be recaptured and punished).

A certain amount of collaboration with his captors is the only way to spare lives. But he can read, and he can write, and for a decade now he’s been carefully smuggling out writings under the pen name of Leviathan urging the rebels that the office of the monarchy is now forever corrupted and must be destroyed. He becomes the intellectual leader against his own reign (Alma is by the way a rather big fan of “Leviathan”). Even this he needs to do very carefully lest it traces back to him.

If and when Terrence is ever freed though, he fully intends to follow through with the destruction of his own monarchy. Once the Pandora’s Box of injuring the king to kill his people has been opened, there’s no putting it back, and he will not subject any children of his to the same fate he suffered. The only question is how.

So anyway, I’m starting to love my angsty fatalistic Fisher King. Any thoughts on how he comes across to you guys, or how to improve him, would be much appreciated!

anfem-cripplepunk:

runicscribbles:

princeescaluswords:

uppityfemale:

Someone mentioned this term in a lower post where I was being harassed for refusing to argue with someone who I think is an obvious alt-right troll. I’d never heard of it before so off to urban dictionary I ran and man… It’s right on.

You do not have to engage with people like this. You don’t owe every person in your path an explanation.

This happened to me around Christmas. A guy messaged me, called me a dumb bitch, etc. I didn’t engaged with him because, why would I? He kept messaging me demanding why I didn’t respond. Citing his language to me I asked why would I want to.

He said he’d apologize if I would debate with him and answer his questions. I tried debating with him on and off for about a day. Finally it was Christmas Eve and I just realized I was getting no where so I told him that we had to agree to disagree. That angered him and said I’d promised I’d answer his questions. I’d felt like I had as best I could.

I told him again I was done.

He immediately took back his apology, resumed his insults, and essentially said that since I wouldn’t endlessly defend my case I was worthless and everything I said was worthless.

I realized then this whole conversation has been a mistake. He was willing to swear at and insult me and only apologize and show respect if I did everything he said no questions.

That was not respect and it was my mistake for not recognizing it earlier.

I’ll say again… You don’t owe everyone in your path an explanation. If you do decide to engage someone it can be on your terms.

Your worth and your beliefs don’t have to be validated by every troll under the bridge.

Now I have a word for it!  

In my experience with fandom, people would come with what seemed to be very reasonable questions, but they would transparently try to set me up for “Gotcha!” moments.  I could always tell because when I didn’t answer them in a way that sprung the trap, they would keep asking the same question again and again.

Best example – a questioner asked me “Why do you think Tyler Posey has had trouble getting roles as compared to his co-stars?”  My response was “I don’t think he has had trouble getting roles.”   This obviously wasn’t the answer they were looking for, so they kept asking the same question, again and again, and then accused me of refusing to answer.   They wanted me to get into an argument where they could demand I acknowledge that he wasn’t a good actor.  

Sea-lioning.  I like it!  Do you have a link to that comic strip?

Here’s the comic from http://wondermark.com/1k62/

All my followers need to be familiar with this.

Don’t let your time, energy, emotions, or spoons/battery be wasted.

Rant about fanfiction writing

sorion:

thelightningstreak:

greenappleeyes:

I was just informed by my brother (who thinks he’s a better writer than anyone else because he has some fancy degree in writing) that fanfiction “doesn’t count” as “real writing” because you aren’t using your own “ideas.”

He doesn’t know that I write fanfiction. He probably wouldn’t have admitted his opinion if her did. But it has pretty much solidified that I will never tell anyone I know in person what I write.

I’ve already been told by several family members that my obsession with a “stupid tv show” is ridiculous and that I’m “too old” to fangirl.

Sigh. /rant

In Defense of
Fanfiction

I am a professional writer and editor in real life. I have a
double degree in English and writing and am currently in school once more to
obtain a master’s degree. If your brother’s fancy writing degree was worth anything
at all, he should be able to admit that the vast majority of all literature is
in fact fanfiction of someone else’s story and its elements. In other words, no
one’s idea is, by definition, original.

Let’s take a look at just
a few
examples to support my theory that some of the most important or
well-known pieces of literature ever created qualify as fanfiction:

Ancient/Old Literature

·       
Around
2000 BCE:
The Epic of Gilgamesh
was inspired as a fanfiction of a historical King of Uruk, mixed with
Mesopotamian mythology. The story includes the character Utnapishtim, who lives
through a world-wide flood by building a ship per the instructions of the god
Enki and ultimately landing on a mountain in the Middle East, similar to Noah’s
story from the Bible (dates for the book of Genesis vary anywhere from 1400 BCE
to 800 BCE). Many historians suggest that the story of Noah was directly
inspired by Gilgamesh’s story of
Utnapishtim. Other historians suggest the two were simply inspired by a similar
source. Either way, there’s too many startling overlaps to classify Utnapishtim
and Noah as only a coincidence.

·       
20-ish
BCE:
The Roman author Virgil wrote The
Aeneid
, which is a direct sequel to the previously created epic The Iliad attributed to Greek bard Homer.
Virgil was also known for writing pastoral poems based off and inspired by the
work of the great poet Theocritus (280 BCE). As a fun addition, Theocritus
himself was known for rewriting the cyclops villain (Polyphemus) of Homer’s Odyssey into a love-sick idiot in his
work, Idyll XI.

Medieval Era (500-1500-ish CE)

·       
700-1000:
The Alphabet of ben Sirach was an
anonymous Hebrew collection of satires that included a parody of the biblical
Genesis story of Adam and Eve. The story gave Adam a totally different wife by
the name of Lilith, the character of which was inspired by Babylonian
mythology. The whole of the collection is additionally wrapped in a fictional
account of telling the stories to the historical figure of the Babylonian king
Nebuchadnezzar—another real person fanfiction of a celebrity from that time.

·       
Around
1000:
The world’s first novel, The
Tale of Genji
by Lady Murasaki Shikibu, inspired the massive outpouring of Japanese
Noh theater plays involving characters from the novel, such as Aoi no Ue (Lady Aoi), which has been
attributed to a few people (Zeami Motokiyo and Inuo). This play appropriates
the Lady Aoi from Shikibu’s psychological novel to explore her death and is
only one example of the available fanfictions of the novel.

·       
1308-1320:
Dante’s Divine Comedy (known most
famously for the Inferno) is a
literal OC self-insertion of the Italian Dante Alighieri himself into the hell,
purgatory and heaven from Catholic / biblical texts. Its format is in an epic,
in an attempt to outdo the Aeneid and
Iliad before it. It also includes an insertion
of a ghostly Virgil, who copied the Iliad
to write the Aeneid. Furthermore,
Dante’s work includes insertions of real historical people that Dante didn’t
like. It’s possibly the most self-indulgent fanfiction ever created while also
being named one of the greatest poems in literature.

·       
1392:
Geoffrey Chaucer (known as the father of English literature) wrote a  famous
collection called The Canterbury Tales.
The collection takes its basic format and inspiration from Italian author
Giovanni Boccaccio’s The Decameron (written
in 1351). It’s suggested that some of the tales Chaucer uses actually
originated from Boccaccio’s work.

Renaissance Era (1550-1660-ish CE)

·       
1590:
English poet Edmund Spenser borrowed the legend of Arthur of the Round Table in
his epic poem, The Faerie Queene. In
it, Arthur is pretty love-sick over the fairy queen.

·       
1597:
English playwright Shakespeare borrowed various mythologies and historical
figures and mixed them together. Not even his most popular play, Romeo and Juliet, was original. He took
the idea from a poem written by Arthur Brooke in 1562, called, “The Tragicall
Hystorye of Romeus and Iuliet.” Even more interesting, Brooke had taken his
idea from the 1554 Giulietta e Romeo
by Italian author Matteo Bandello. (Shakespeare repeatedly sourced other
people’s ideas or historical existence for his plays.)

Enlightenment Era (1660-1789)

·       
1667:
English poet John Milton wrote Paradise
Lost
, a fanfiction epic of the biblical story in the book of Genesis about
the fall of creation and humankind into imperfection.

·       
1712:
English poet Alexander Pope wrote a mock-heroic epic called the Rape of the Lock to make fun of all the
serious epic writers before him, borrowing such images as the way epic warriors
put on armor and connecting it to the way rich people put on rich clothing and
jewelry. He used other standard epic elements as repeated throughout The Iliad, Aeneid, and so forth.

·       
1759:
French writer and inventor, Voltaire, wrote a satire Candide. It borrowed various elements from Tales from a Thousand and One Arabian Nights, a collection of
Middle Eastern folktales from the Islamic Golden Age.

Romantic Era (1789-1850)

·       
1819:
In Don Juan, English poet Lord Byron
took the pre-dated legend of Don Juan, which was about a man who seduced a lot
of women, and reversed the original plot so that Don Juan ended up seduced by a
lot of women.

·       
1820:
English poet John Keats wrote a poem as a retelling of the Greek mythological
creature called Lamia, which was a half-woman and half-monster (description
varies depending on the Greek source). A lot of his works borrowed heavily from
Greek mythology and literature, and he idolized the English Renaissance poet
Edmund Spenser, to a point where his first work was called, “Imitation of
Spenser” (1814). In it, he borrowed various images from Spenser’s epic, The Faerie Queene.

·       
1843:
English writer Charles Dickens wrote A
Christmas Carol
, based off the various stories compiled in the 1841 and
1842 The Lowell Offering, a publication magazine written by a group of
intellectual but mostly anonymous women. He borrowed the certain pieces of plot,
language, and descriptions for Scrooge’s ghostly encounters from the stories “A
Visit from Hope” (anonymous), “Happiness” (anonymous), and “Memory and Hope”
(by someone named Ellen). A Christmas
Carol
is additionally littered with biblical allusions all over the place.

·       
1844:
French writer Alexander Dumas borrowed The
Three Musketeers
, as well as many of the story’s side-characters, from The Memoirs of Monsieur d’Artagnan by
French author Gatien de Courtilz de Sandras. He didn’t even change the names or
who the villain, the Cardinal, was.

·       
1845:
American author Edgar Allan Poe wrote The
Thousand and Second Tale of Scheherazade
, in which he has the mythical Scheherazade
from the Tales from a Thousand and One
Arabian Nights
telling another story about the legendary Sinbad the
Sailor.  

·       
1861:
Hungarian author Imre Madach wrote The
Tragedy of Man
, which reverses the biblical moral principles of God and
Satan: In this story, God is the violent and evil ruler, and Satan is the jaded/trickster
victim just trying to open humanity’s eyes to the truth.  

Modern Era (1900ish-1950s)

·       
1922:
Irish novelist James Joyce wrote his stream-of-consciousness novel Ulysses, which was based off of Homer’s Odyssey, to a point where he took the
characters and simply renamed them, as well as aligned the structure of his
book to the various episodes in Homer’s work.

·       
1930:
The Nancy Drew series was created under
the penname Carolyn Keene, who did not exist. Instead, an American man named
Edward Stratemeyer would write three pages of a story, then send it to one of
several ghostwriters who wanted to write Nancy Drew. The ghostwriter would take
the story and expand it. The anonymous group of ghostwriters all writing about
the same character still exists today. Each individual ghostwriter has made
changes to Nancy’s personality, looks, and age, as well as the type of plots said
character engages in.

·       
1937:
English writer JRR Tolkien wrote The Hobbit
and then Lord of the Rings in the
1950s. He borrowed the names of characters and places after those seen in the
Icelandic sagas Poetic Edda and Prose Edda by Snorri Sturluson. Tolkien admitted
he based the physical appearance of Gandalf off of the Norse god Odin. He
modeled the character of Aragorn directly after Beowulf, from the old English epic
(700-1000 BCE) Beowulf. Aragorn himself
even paraphrases the Anglo-Saxon poem, “The Wanderer,” as an example of a verse
created by his people of Rohan. Another fun fact is that Tolkien specifically
borrowed the phrase “my precious,” from a Middle English poem called Pearl. Additionally,
Tolkien was a big fan of romantic prose/poetry writer William Morris and wanted
to write like him, so he borrowed a lot of phrases, aesthetics, and even names
from such works like the 1888 The House
of the Wolfings
by Morris, including the place called “Mirkwood.” Of
curious note is that Morris’s work was massively influenced by Virgil’s Aeneid.

·       
1938:
African-American author Richard Wright wrote a collection of stories called Uncle Tom’s Children, with an obvious
borrowing of the title from Uncle Tom’s
Cabin
, written by Harriet Beecher Stowe in 1852.

·       
1930s-present:
DC and Marvel comics mostly just updated the mythological gods and goddesses
for a modern era, appropriating their names, special relics, and abilities for
their heroes, and then mixing them with some modern-day cover identifies. As an
example, Wonder Woman was originally a nod to the Greek goddess Diana, a nod to
the female Amazon warriors, and a redesigned image of Rosie the Riveter. As
another example, the Flash is a reproduction of the Greek god Hermes, his
winged helmet further clarifying the connection. Even the name Superman was not
entirely original. 1938 Illustrator of Superman, Joe Shuster, took the name
“Superman” from the German “Ubermensh,” a term coined by the philosopher
Friedrich Nietzsche. As a final example, sometimes the appropriation from
mythology is incredibly obvious, as in the case of Thor.

·       
1949:
English author George Orwell reviewed a book called We by Russian author Yevgeny Zamyatin. He wrote a rave review on it
and declared that he would try to write something similar, which ultimately
became 1984, sharing many similar
plot points and concepts while bringing the story of We into a more realistic environment. The novel We also inspired Ayn Rand’s Anthem and Kurt Vonnegut’s Player Piano, for which Vonnegut
admitted he also borrowed concepts from Aldous Huxley’s Brave New World.

·       
1950s:
The Chronicles of Narnia by British author
C.S. Lewis was based on biblical stories conveyed through various mythological
elements as well.

Postmodern Era (1950s-Present, debatably)

·       
1977: African-American
author, Toni Morrison, wrote a critically acclaimed novel called Song of Solomon, which took its title
name, as well as the names of several characters and plot points, from the
Bible.

·       
1988:
British-Indian author Salman Rushdie’s The
Satanic Verses
was inspired by the life of the Islamic prophet Muhammed.
Its title is a direct reference to controversial verses once placed in the
Quran but then removed. These highly controversial and sensitive connections to
Islamic and Old Testament personalities of Gabriel and Satan resulted in the
banning of Rushdie’s book from several regions.  

·       
1997-2007:
The Harry Potter series by British author
JK Rowling borrows heavily from historical alchemy, including the age-old
legend of the philosopher’s stone and the 1652 book Culpeper’s Complete Herbal, which was about the medicinal and
occult properties of plants, which helped her build how magic was used in her
stories. Rowling also admits the 1652 book inspired many of the character’s
names. She appropriates several historical figures as well for her own purposes
(as a sort
of real-person fanfiction), including references to alchemists Nicolas Flammel and
Paracelsus. She even admits to, while writing Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone,
dreaming about Flammel showing her how to make a philosopher’s stone.

·       
2003:
American author Dan Brown’s The Da Vinci
Code
and its twisting conspiracies are based almost entirely on the books
of Margaret Starbird, most of which were written between 1993 and 2003.

·       
2009:  Pride and Prejudice and Zombies, by American
author Seth Grahame-Smith, is a rehashing of Jane Austen’s 1813 Pride and Prejudice. But with zombies.

·       
2015: American
writer of critically acclaimed The Outsiders,
S.E. Hinton, claims that she has posted anonymous fanfictions of her own novel,
as well as at least four Supernatural fanfics, being a huge fan of the show and
of the paranormal.

As a professionally educated and trained writer and editor
myself, I had to study the intertextualities of several of the pieces I
mentioned above. But this is not an exhaustive world list by any means and is missing some other fantastic and influential writers—I’ve included only
what has come to my mind in a short time. Plots and characters and ideas have
been largely passed around throughout the history of literature. Without
fanfiction, a solid portion of well-known literature would not exist.   

In fact, many authors and even inventors will say that there
is no such thing as an original idea. Certain pieces get touted as creative
because they combine previously suggested elements in a different or
thought-provoking way. (Don’t even get me started on how science fiction is a
driving force behind many scientific advancements today!)

If you’re writing fanfiction, then you’re participating in a
tradition that spans millennia. There is no piece of literature created in some
“original” vacuum. That is precisely why literary critics, and those who have professionally
studied fiction in an academic setting, use the word “intertextuality” to
describe how works of fiction are ultimately interrelated in some way or
another.

Therefore, fanfiction is the legacy of literature. If
Virgil, Dante, Shakespeare, Voltaire, Keats, Poe, Dickens, Tolkien, and Brown can
write fanfiction about and expand other people’s works, you can too. So the
next time someone tells you to stop writing fanfiction, or tells you that it’s
not a valid form of art, tell them that they obviously have never read the most
important historical works of fiction, or even many popular modern stories,
which are all rehashed fanfiction stories, borrowing characters and names and setting and even syntax. 

Rant written for @greenappleeyes and everyone else unfairly shamed for writing fanfiction. Content was retrieved from my own class notes, as well as publically available online interviews and articles. 

I tell everyone that I like writing/reading fanfiction, whether or not they want to hear about it :] Usually, I have to explain what it is anyway XD Whenever I get the “but that’s not REALLY writing” argument, my MA in literature is put to good use, and the rant looks a bit like the reply above (though not as extensive, because one or two examples are enough for people who lack the education/understanding to process the importance of transformative works).

So there.

Maggie’s Unsolicited Exercise Advice

Hi guys! Fellow nerd with ADHD, executive disfunction, and a whole host of internet addiction tendencies, here to be That Jerk who tells you how to start an exercise habit. Because there’s nothing like working out literally one (1) time to turn someone into a raging jerk of unsolicited exercise advice. But I hit on something that got me working out every day for six months now using 3 unexpected rules, and I thought I’d share it with the class:

Rule 1: DO NOT CHALLENGE YOURSELF

I know this runs counter to every single Amazon Warrior Paleo Spartan Racer Olympic Athlete’s blog but I cannot stress enough how counterproductive it is to go into the gym on your first day and spend 2 hours pounding every muscle until you’re puking in a corner. Nothing will be less helpful, more deceptive on the good it’s doing for your body, or more likely to make you flee the gym and never return.  

Rule 2: DO ESTABLISH THE EASIEST HABIT YOU CAN IMAGINE

I mean stupid easy. So easy you’re embarrassed if you don’t do it. So easy you can schedule it in and be done with it before most people finish their smoke/Twitter break (whichever is more addictive and bad for you these days). 

For myself I did ten (10) minutes of walking on the treadmill at about 3 mph. A full 10 minutes, no speeding up, no trying to be tougher. I’d check my messages, scroll through Tumblr, do anything except challenge myself. It is a normal walking pace and it is boring as hell

But, it got me warmed up, and my blood flowing enough for part 2, which was 10 minutes of very light jogging (for me about 5mph, but at one point I could barely do 4.7mph). If I hit a pace where I wanted to quit, I’d drop down to a brisk walk again. The only point was to get to 20 minutes.

Rule 3: ONLY WORRY ABOUT MAKING THIS HABIT DAILY

The reason I struggled in the past to make a regular exercise habit was because I kept trying to “schedule” days off. M-W-F, Only Weekdays, Only Weekends, none of it worked. Life kept coming up. I’d miss a day, feel terrible, then miss another day because of Life and give up.

Off days will happen whether you schedule them or not. You’ll oversleep, or go out with friends, or get stuck with a big project and just not have time. Forgive yourself. Go back the next day. See Point 1. The goal is to make your workout so easy that you can squeeze it in between study sessions, and not need to eat a huge meal to have enough energy (a few saltine crackers is all you’re trying to burn). 

Sometimes I’d go 4 days, even a week at a time without being able to to do my run because of work travel or other projects. Some weeks I got lucky, and I manage to go every day. Looking back over my exercise logging app though, I learned that in the end it all averaged out to exercising every other day, which is the best I’ve ever done probably in my life. More importantly I’ve maintained this very easy habit for going on 6 months now and I actually enjoy it enough to keep going.

Results: In that time I’ve gone from someone who hated running and could barely jog a mile without puking, to regularly running 20-40 minutes (2.5 miles to a regular 5k daily, including warm up and cool down) and looking forward to it. Mostly because I got bored with my walk and because I didn’t guilt trip myself anymore for missing a day. Sure, there’s a lot more I could be doing. I should probably add some stretching and muscle work in there. I’m actively considering what I can do to improve, BUT in the meantime I’ve created an easy, regular habit which study after study has shown helps immensely at reducing stress and improving health. This is especially important for me, since I’m moving out of my 20s, as we all do, and heading towards a time in life when calories simply don’t burn themselves anymore, and regular exercise is therefore crucial.

TL;DR Establish a habit. That’s all, that is your only job. Make it so easy you can’t ignore it. Make it daily. Let the improvements come at their own pace but do not worry about them in advance. Just start something you can do for 10-20 minutes a day, every day, whether it’s jogging, jumping jacks, or some easy stretches. DO NOT try to challenge yourself. Your only challenge is to form a habit you can easily maintain. Improvement will come on its own time, or it won’t. Don’t stress break days, but don’t schedule them, they will happen on their own.

Final Tip: I’ve found “Way of Life” to be a useful habit-building app for tracking if I worked out. It’s literally just a “yes or no” excel spreadsheet of habits you’re trying to break or form, and it’s free. Seeing the daily green boxes of “exercise” is a good feeling, even if it was just for 10 minutes, and it keeps my ADHD brain from losing track of missed days and thinking I’ve only skipped 1 day when it’s really 10.

forgive me for this nerdy ass post but

alogicals:

the thing that gets me about all these people who are furious that there’s more content for gay ships than their het ships is just how often they’re plain wrong

i mean, take dragon age for example where the fandom is notorious for making post after post about how maligned their precious f/m is because people dare to prefer the m/m version of the romance. by the way they’re talking you’d think het ships would be sinking under the m/m juggernaut.

you wanna know what the reality looks like?

image

(source)

yep. there’s literally more het fic for dragon age than m/m and f/f combined.

why does this happen? why is it such a phenomenon that people whine and scream and cry about how much the mean gays are taking over fandom when the reality is that gay people still draw the short end of the stick on top of getting yelled at for it?

imo it’s because hets don’t notice het content because they subconsciously categorize it as Correct and Natural but are hyper aware of gay content because they feel it’s somehow the opposite of that.

part of that is probably because of how often het content is canon compared to gay content– so many het ships aren’t even counted as het but are seen as “gen” just because they’re canon compliant. and making content for the actual happenings of the narrative is seen as somehow different than inventing content. so it slips under the radar.

the other is obviously that they’re much more likely to discount gay subtext and validate het subtext due to heteronormativity. the smallest scene is proof that a het ship is real and ~obviously people would create content for it but gay subtext is far fetched and outlandish and therefore worthy of special attention.

the other side of the equation is the way fanfic is seen as the be-end-all measuring stick of fandom content output. i know it’s because ao3 with its nice screenshottable numbers is easiest to use as a reference point (i did it myself). but that’s inherently a flawed metric because

a) canon ships are much less likely to have the same fanfic output than non-canon ships for the simple reason that less wish fulfillment is needed if the canon is giving you the content you want. guess hard whether het or gay ships are more likely to be canon

b) ao3 skewing gay is not a surprise considering it was partly intended specifically for the gay fic that was banned on other fanfic archives (have you never wondered why it’s called ‘an archive of our own’?). you used to get deleted for posting gay stuff on ff.net (idk if it still happens i haven’t posted there in ages), and fandom-specific fic archives and later LJ/DW comms were (and, tbqh, still sometimes are) rife with homophobic rules banning or heavily censoring gay content. if you visit any other fic archive the numbers will look a lot differently, i assure you (and yes, they /are/ still active), people just can’t get statistics as easily from them.

c) tangentially related to the above point, people forget that fandom isn’t just the people they follow on tumblr. using dragon age as an example again, reddit, the BSN boards, ff.net, etc are all part of the dragon age fandom and as someone who spent a lot of time i should have honestly applied better on the BSN boards i can tell you they were suffocatingly heterosexual (and homophobic!). i can’t vouch for reddit personally but i have friends who can and who had the same experience there. the fact that gay people have to cluster in specific spaces like tumblr tags and ao3 because they’re entirely unwelcome in literally every other general fandom space is not some sort of privilege, lmao.

d) and honestly most importantly: fic is not the only fandom output. like, i can’t believe that even has to be said but fanart, gif sets and graphics, fanmixes, meta, fanvids, even shitposts! are all also fandom output. they just don’t get counted because they’re much harder to quantify. but if you look at e.g. which tumblr tags are most active (as for example curated here) there is quite obviously a ton of het shipping happening on tumblr (the most popular ship last week was a het ship– mike and eleven from stranger things). you just don’t recognize it as such because the medium isn’t fic. this is again related to how likely gay ships actually get satisfying in-canon content– the fact that gay ships often get a lot of fic is because we gay people have to turn to fic for what canon refuses to provide for us. het ships have tons of content and active tags, but it often consists of e.g. gif sets or meta because they are far more likely to have canon content to rely on with no need to invent anything on top of it.

the reason why f/f sometimes runs counter to that rule and produces a lot of fic for canon ships is imho because quite frankly… canon f/f ships make up most of the rare occasions in which two female characters get to have a complex, interesting and well written relationship that isn’t almost entirely overshadowed by how their narrative revolves around a man. there’s also a lot to be said about why the numbers for f/f are small most of the time that would require a whole huge ass separate post and i am a tired lesbian and do not have the energy.

i also don’t really wanna get into why these accusations are often hurled at gay people. i’ve been called a misogynist for not giving a shit about het one too many times by people who can’t fathom that a lesbian might find m/f content a hundred times more alienating than any m/m content could ever be. but the fact is that it’s all too often based on an entirely fabricated idea of how the fandom landscape actually looks like, and i just wish we could stop entertaining that lie.